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Nurturing Tomorrow: A Letter to Foster and Adoptive Mama

December 14, 2023

Dear Foster and Adoptive Mamas, As we stand on the threshold of a new year, it’s a profound moment to reflect not only on the challenges we’ve overcome but also on the intentional choices we’re making for our future selves. The daily labor of love, the vulnerability of attachment, and the unique journey of foster […]

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Dear Foster and Adoptive Mamas,

As we stand on the threshold of a new year, it’s a profound moment to reflect not only on the challenges we’ve overcome but also on the intentional choices we’re making for our future selves. The daily labor of love, the vulnerability of attachment, and the unique journey of foster and adoptive parenting are not easy feats. In this letter, let’s explore the power of grace, intentional living, and the transformative impact of small, consistent changes.

Embracing Grace and Compassion

In the midst of the chaotic beauty that is foster and adoptive parenting, it’s crucial to extend grace and compassion to ourselves. The love we pour into these precious souls is boundless, and with it comes the risk of attachment that, at times, feels almost too strong. Let’s remember that it’s okay to get attached; it’s a testament to the depth of our love and care. It’s a sign that we are doing something profoundly right.

As we close the chapter on 2023, consider: What moments of grace and compassion have you gifted yourself? In those moments of doubt or exhaustion, how did you extend kindness to your own heart?

The Power of Intentionality

Our lives are a series of choices, and as we navigate the intricacies of foster and adoptive parenting, being intentional becomes paramount. Be mindful of who you spend time with, and how those relationships contribute to your well-being. Cultivate a circle of support that understands the unique challenges you face.

In the quiet moments, ask yourself: What choices have you made this year that align with the woman, the mother, the human you aspire to be? How have these intentional choices shaped your journey?

Harnessing the Power of Intentions

Intentions are powerful forces that can shape the direction of our lives. They are not rigid resolutions; instead, they are gentle whispers guiding us toward the life we long for. As you reflect on the past year, consider the intentions you’ve set and how they have influenced your days, weeks, and months.

Remember: Just because things are a certain way now does not mean they will remain so. Your intentions have the power to transform your reality. What intentions will you carry into the coming year? How might they shape your journey as a mother and a woman?

Clarifying Your Identity and Longings

Amidst the daily demands of foster and adoptive parenting, it’s easy to lose sight of our individual identities and longings. Take a moment to get clear on who you want to be as a mom, a woman, and a human being. What sparks joy in your heart and soul? What dreams do you harbor?

Recognize that your identity is multifaceted, and you are more than the role of a foster parent. In the tapestry of your life, what colors represent the woman you aspire to become? How can you integrate these hues into your daily existence?

The Power of Small Changes

In our pursuit of personal growth and transformation, it’s often the small, consistent changes that yield the most significant impact. Rather than succumbing to the pressure of grand resolutions, embrace the power of incremental shifts.

Reflect on the small changes you’ve implemented this past year. How have they influenced your daily life and long-term well-being? What adjustments can you make moving forward to align with your intentions?

It’s Never Too Late to Become

One of the most profound truths is that it’s never too late to become the person you want to be. The journey of foster and adoptive parenting is dynamic, and so too is your personal evolution. Embrace the belief that you don’t have to sacrifice your aspirations because you are a foster parent. Your dreams and identity can coexist harmoniously.

As you stand at the crossroads of the old and the new, envision the person you want to become. What steps can you take, starting today, to align your actions with your aspirations? In the dance of becoming, every step is a celebration of progress.

In closing, dear foster and adoptive mamas, remember that you are resilient, courageous, and capable of profound transformation. As you embark on the journey of a new year, may you carry with you the wisdom of grace, the power of intentions, and the assurance that small changes lead to lasting impact.

With love and admiration,


P.S. You should see the whack-a-doo prices in my shop today!  I’ve been changing them every day in December using a random number generator – because it’s fun AND I really do want to see as many foster mamas as possible get the support they need! – it’s been fun for me and SO many foster and adoptive mamas are checking the shop each day and making the most of the deals!  You can check them out for yourself at the link in the epsiode description or on my website or at the link in my instagram bio @fearless_fostering.

Thank you for your “yes” and for all that you’re doing!  I am cheering you on from here!

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