Before we officially get to the weekend, I wanted to touch base about our thought life. How’s it going, Besties? I’m asking because there is a common misconception that people who struggle with intrusive thoughts have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. The reality is, while OCD is a serious problem for a lot of people, everyone struggles with thoughts they wish they weren’t having sometimes. I’m writing this post to encourage you that anxiety relief and relief from intrusive thoughts is possible.
What separates a normal amount of intrusive thoughts from something worthy of a clinical diagnosis is what you do with those thoughts when they happen. A person with OCD or another type of anxiety disorder will typically be run away with these thoughts, making their present task extremely difficult or downright impossible. So let’s spend some time chatting about coping skills, shall we? There is so much to share about these unwanted thoughts, but for today’s post I will stick to the basics.
Feelings are not facts
This is Psych 101. Any good therapist will discuss this with a client who struggles with intrusive thoughts. What we feel is POWERFUL. When we have an emotion, we often feel it physically as well. Our bodies have a physiological reaction to stress, anxiety, sadness, and excitement. When our mind feels something, our bodies do too. That makes the feeling very difficult to dismiss. However, with practice, we can notice when we are having uncomfortable thoughts (perhaps when you sense your body is beginning to react) and say to ourselves “feelings are not facts” or “Just because I feel this, doesn’t mean it’s true.” If you can, try to think of a time when you felt the same way and your thought was not true. Don’t berate yourself; simply notice and remind yourself gently of the truth.
Try to understand your intrusive thoughts
Intrusive thoughts have a greater chance of taking over if we don’t understand how or why they are happening. When we have a better understanding of underlying triggers that can cause unwanted thoughts and feelings, we are better equipped to cope effectively and reduce the chances of them recurring. I use a tool called a thought record with almost all of my clients, and I have used them in my own life as well. A thought record brings greater awareness to your experiences, moods, and thoughts, thus enabling you to process your intrusive thoughts and in turn, take away a lot
of their power. You can find a printable thought record here
to give it a try.
Return to the current momentBesties, this is a big one. This takes practice and hard work. BUT I promise the more you practice this, the easier it will become. AND, the more peace you will experience. I can tell you from personal and professional experience, the more you practice mindfulness, the more you will feel relaxed and in control of your thought life. It’s glorious. So how do we return to the current moment? Simply notice when we are not there (i.e. when our intrusive thoughts are present), and say something to yourself such as “Right now I am ____________.” Whatever you are doing in that moment. For example, unwanted thoughts may occur when you’re driving. When you notice this, you say “Right now I am driving.” And then re-focus on just driving. You can do this as often as you need to until your mind turns away from those intrusive thoughts.
I hope you find these suggestions helpful. Have a beautiful and peaceful weekend, my Besties! Don’t forget your self care! 🙂